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These trying times

A question for you:

How are you?

In these trying times it’s important to make sure that you are ok and that you are staying safe. It is important to make sure that you are ok not just physically but also mentally. With various lock-downs all around the world, times are changing and we have gone from a human race that gathers together to a human race that cannot be together. We now need to keep our distance. I know this is a struggle, but we have to do it for the sake of our family and friends. I am really struggling with it myself. I really love Kev (no honestly!) but I also miss my son, my mother, my sisters and brother, my friends and even my team at work. I am probably the most social person I know (not in a going out and getting drunk in pubs kinda social, but needing to be around people kinda social) and I am missing people. I’m missing that interaction, that face-to-face sort of conversation, those hugs with people (or cwtches as we say in Wales), even that gentle touch on the arm when someone is upset just to show them that you are there and you understand! I am hoping that this is not the new normal that people keep talking about and when this is all done, we can get together again. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not going to be the same as it was before, but it can’t stay like this forever!

There are positives to everyone staying in though. People are starting to talk to the people they live with, building bonds with their children through home-school (I know it’s stressful, but hang in there – I’m talking to the kids, not the parents, lol). Nature is coming back, animals are going on a wander! Seriously, penguins going for a walk on the streets in South Africa!

These are very troubled times. We will lose loved ones and we will grieve not just as individuals but as a human race, and not just as individual countries but as a world. This is also teaching us to be kind to each other, we’re all in this together and we need to be there for each other. I read a poignant thing the other day about us not all being in the same boat but all being in the same storm (if you would like to read it, click on this link and it will take you to the Times of India that featured it online). Me and Kev are quite lucky because I am a Civil Servant, I still get paid. He however being self-employed doesn’t as most of his customers have cancelled but don’t get me wrong, we will survive. There are people out there that are really struggling! Kev, ever the optimist, even took on some factory work where he was packing rice (he did it for about 3 weeks before he lost the plot!), he’s currently signed up to nearly every agency in South Wales as far as I can see because he can’t cope with being bored!

I have taken up so many things, started way too many hobbies. Some of them good, some of them not so good. I’ve started knitting again (good), can only knit scarves and squares for a throw I’m designing (not so good). I’ve started cross-stitch (good), I can no longer see the needle to thread it (not so good). I’ve ordered some craft things (good), they haven’t come because so has everyone else (not so good). I have however been good with my time. I’m really in front with my Open University studies and started doing courses through OpenLearn for creative writing, which are completely free! I’ve downloaded a thing called Evernote where I can journal to my hearts content. Seriously, I have 5 different notebooks in Evernote ranging from writing ideas to knitting patterns. I’ve even done a Corona-virus diary! The one thing that I have made myself get back into is writing my book. I started it about 2 years ago and realised that with all this free time, I haven’t really got an excuse not to get back to it! It’s only been a few days, but it’s coming along quite nicely (whether it’s any good is another thing but watch this space. Well not this particular space, but I will let you know how is coming along lol).

The other thing that I’ve done is registered as a volunteer with the NHS. They do an amazing job everyday and while I’m not working, I thought I could give them a hand. I’m not going to be doing anything important (like anything medical!), I’m just going to be a Ward Helper which involves me being a buddy for patients, keeping them company and making sure they can get in touch with their family (especially now as no one can visit them in hospital). I haven’t started yet, I still have to go through some checks and some training but I’m hoping I will be able to at least help in some way during these tough times!

There are several things that the past 4 weeks in lock-down have taught me:

  • I love Kev but being cooped up with him for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, one of us is going to get physically hurt (I don’t mean that, I haven’g got the strength to hurt him!). It’s just we can argue like cat and dog at normal times (like an old married couple as they say), but this has taken it to a whole new level lol.
  • I get bored easily and I need distractions to stop me from getting bored! That goes for Kev too!
  • There is only so much television one person can physically watch, even though ‘What are you binge watching at the moment?’ has really become a phrase. I have nearly finished Lucifer (check out the link which will take you to IMDb for further information) if you are really asking (which I don’t think you are!).
  • Once this is all over, I have way too many hobbies to keep up with (however, if I needed to update my CV, the hobbies/interest section would be massive!)
  • I have fallen in love with TikTok which I think loads of the population has. It’s an app you can put on your phone (sort of a social media thing as you can follow people). I can’t believe how watching short videos of people dancing and generally doing silly things could be so entertaining. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t uploaded anything as of yet (haven’t really got the guts as I am more a watcher that a performer). I have however discovered that you can start watching the videos and loose 2 hours without even realising!
  • How far I can walk during my 1 hour of exercise. This is only because I am not allowed to go to the gym. My poor dog has never been walked for so long and so far in all of his life!
  • And finally, we need to stay positive in these tough times and look out for each other, stay home and stay safe!

Hopefully with this little entry into my blog, I have inspired you to try something new, to get a hobby or even just entertained you with my life for a few minutes. It doesn’t really matter what you take away from this, I just hope you are doing ok and if you are not, try talking to someone, even if it’s just a friend of family member over the phone. Let them know how you are feeling and I can guarantee, your probably not the only one!

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